When I started blogging I wanted to put up a post every other day that would “turn people towards kindness” and I apologize, the past couple of weeks have been crazy. One of my aunt’s passed away, she was very precious to me, she didn’t have children so I’ve been working with her business and trying to take care of my uncle. They were married 68 years!
This gave me a chance to regroup on my plan for the blog.
If I could do anything in the world, I’d like to be a “Kindness Coach” and train people to find more kindness in this world and start looking for opportunities to be kind in the small and quiet ways. If you don’t know me in real life, I was raised by amazing parents that encouraged generosity and to change the world in small ways. They were empathetic and didn’t want to raise someone who felt it was important to judge others, but to be open to help others. This is not something I take for granted. Many people weren’t raised in that kind of environment and others may not have had the opportunity.
If you break kindness down, you’ll find being kind is much different than being nice. Being nice is on the outside but kindness is to the core of your being. Being kind is based on your values, your beliefs and your thetics. Some things you’re born with, and other times you can influence others.
Here are some kindness qualities:
1) Friendly (sometimes a smile makes.a difference)
All you have to do is to be genuine and have concern for others AND yourself.
If we lived in a world where kindness just happened, it would be a little different. But in this world – we’re inclined to learn from pain, so the painful things are what stick to our brains – the painful things teach us to be cautious, the good things our mind just takes for granted and moves on. So we’re going to have to train our brains to help find kindness, and my blog will be the “bright spot” that will set up a place for KINDNESS REPORTS. It may be something very simple, because as Aesop said, “No act of kindness, no matter how small, is ever wasted.” And how amazing is that thought?
So I encourage you to look for ways to simply “be kind” and if this is new for you – start small. But start. Now I want you to be smart too. I’ve noticed a movement on Twitter for philanthropy, but people have gotten in on there and just made something sweet, into a place for scammers and greed. Once people identify you as a giver, the takers will be right there. There is always someone to help, there is always a need. As a Christian most of my good points come from the Bible, and Matthew 6:1-4 NKJV says, “1 “Take heed that you do not do your charitable deeds before men, to be seen by them. Otherwise you have no reward from your Father in heaven. 2 Therefore, when you do a charitable deed, do not sound a trumpet before you as the hypocrites do in the synagogues and in the streets, that they may have glory from men. Assuredly, I say to you, they have their reward. 3 But when you do a charitable deed, do not let your left hand know what your right hand is doing, 4 that your charitable deed may be in secret; and your Father who sees in secret will Himself reward you openly.” I encourage you to give, but you don’t have to tell what you gave. You may find yourself wanting to tell people WHERE you are giving, but you don’t have to tell WHAT you gave. Giving feels good and it’s natural to be excited about giving.
You can find ways to give anywhere. My next post will be about the Ronald McDonald’s House and how they take soda pop tabs to raise money. It doesn’t get more simple than that!
If you’re inspired by kindness, please feel free to forward this article and see if we can start a movement to kindness. Come back to the blog every other day for new reports of kindness – and I’m always looking for stories at DeAnna@MyFriendDeAnna.com – and the stories will focus on 3 areas – 1) how YOU can be kind to others 2) KINDNESS happening around us 3) Encouraging you to be kind to YOURSELF.
Thank you for taking the time to read! I’m just getting started on blogging, so bear/bare with me as I learn and grow!!